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These
are two powerful quotes. Combined, they tell us that if we think positively,
we're likely to enjoy positive results. Negative thinking, on the other hand,
can lead to outcomes we don't want.
Positive
and negative thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies: What we expect can
often come true.
If
you start off thinking you will mess up a task, the chances are that you will:
You may not try hard enough to succeed, you won't attract support from other
people, and you may not perceive any results as good enough.
Positive
thinking, on the other hand, is often associated with positive actions and
outcomes. You're drawn to, and you focus on, the positive aspects of a
situation. You have hope and faith in yourself and others, and you work and
invest hard to prove that your optimism is warranted. You'll enthuse others,
and they may well "pitch in" to help you. This makes constructive
outcomes all the more likely.
When
it comes down to it, positive, optimistic people are happier and healthier, and
enjoy more success than those who think negatively. The key difference between
them is how they think about and interpret the events in their life.
So,
how do you think about your successes and failures? Do you have a predictable
thinking pattern?
Turn Negatives into Positives
The
first step in changing negative thinking is to become aware of it. For many of
us, negative thinking is a bad habit – and we may not even know we're doing it!
Consider
this example: The guy on the subway who just made a face is surely directing
his behavior at you. When the receptionist doesn't greet you in the morning,
you must have done something to anger her. again! You go straight to the coffee
machine, because it's Monday morning and you just know you'll be solving
problems until lunchtime. When you finally get to your desk, your assistant is
waiting for you. "Oh no," you think. "What has he done now? The
first problem of the day. yippee!"
If
you're feeling bad after reading this, imagine how it would feel to surround
yourself with that much negativity. Then ask yourself if this is the way you
tend to think in your own life?
Dr
Martin Seligman, who has been described as America's most influential
psychologist, has done extensive research on thought patterns. In particular,
he looks at the impact of an optimistic versus pessimistic outlook on life and
success.
Seligman
says we explain events using three basic dimensions of Permanence, Pervasiveness and Personalization,
with optimistic people on one end of the scale and pessimistic people on the
other. We look at these below.
Permanence
Believing that something we are experiencing is either permanent
or temporary.
Pessimist: I lost my job and I'll never
find one as good again. No point even looking!
Optimist: I lost my job. Thank goodness
there are other opportunities I can explore!
Pervasiveness
Believing that situational factors cause an effect or that the
effect is evidence of more universal factors at work.
Pessimist: I lost my job. Companies are
all the same; all they care about is money. I don't know why I bother putting
in any effort at all.
Optimist: I lost my job. It's too bad
our company has to reinvent itself to stay competitive. Thankfully I learned
some great transferable skills!
Personalization
Believing that something about you influenced the outcome or
that something external to you caused it.
Pessimist: I lost my job. If I had been
a decent employee they would have found a new job for me.
Optimist: I lost my job. I gave it my
all, however they just can't use my skill set right now.
Re-shape Your Thinking
When
you're more aware of the way you think, you can take action to use positive
situations to your advantage, and re-shape the negative ones. The goal is to
think positively, regardless of the situation, and make a conscious effort to
see opportunities instead of obstacles.
So,
in our example, if you immediately think the receptionist is mad at you because
she didn't say hello, how rational is that? Could she have been busy or
distracted when you walked by? Did you say hello to her? Maybe she wasn't
feeling well, or she was in a negative mood herself. These are all more
rational reasons for her behavior than simply assuming that you did something
wrong.
Persistent negative thinking can cause mental health problems,
including depression. While these positive thinking techniques have been shown
to have a positive effect, they are for guidance only, and readers should take
the advice of suitably qualified health professionals if they are experiencing
persistent unhappiness.
Key Points
Becoming
more positive is always a good thing. Using this quiz, you can identify where
and how much you tend to think negatively. The more aware you are of your
thoughts, the better you'll be able to change them to emphasize the positive.
Positive
thinking usually attracts positive people, events, and outcomes. If you want to
create an environment where you're successful and satisfied, you'll need the
power of positive thinking on your side.
You may not be aware of all of your negative thoughts and the
effect they have on your life, however, by taking some time to understand your
own thought patterns, you can challenge those irrational, negative thoughts –
and replace them with more positive, optimistic and empowering messages.
By
Chris Greenhalgh –
Regional
Manager/ Dubai – Virgin Holidays
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